Everyone has a past and I had too. A past that still haunts about my regular failures in professional and personal life. These experiences have made me stronger but at the same time it has also made my parents worried about my future.
I can’t blame them completely as you are defined by the choices you take in life. The mistakes I have made have been due to my adamant choices. So it was quite a daunting task for me to share with my parents that their elder son who was just about year old in his marriage has decided to quit his job and started his own startup. Besides he has also dragged his wife into the startup which was just a blog trying to bring stories from Indian social media.
Cool idea? Well not for my parents and it would be same for most of the Indian parents who would vouch for any day for a settled life with a stable job. I also had my past that was warning that it won’t be a good idea to tell them at a point when the startup was just starting up and was running on our family savings. Even though Mrs. Naidu was against the decision but I decided to keep it secret. The good part was that my younger brother was aware of my move and he initially was against the move but he knows me well.
By the end of 2011 I had quit my job and I finally got courage after a year and half to tell them the truth. The ongoing lie for 18 months wasn’t really easy. Every time my mother called I had to pretend that I was still working at my last firm and then weave a false story for not visiting them during holidays. My parents thought that I was giving time more to my new family but the fact was that we were on a tight budget and we were working on Sundays too. This was the time when my dad retired, had a heart attack and I was helpless. Couldn’t be there when he needed me most, forget providing a helping hand. This was the time I was really questioning my choice made again in this phase of life.
Finally, I told them in July, 2013 about our startup – Lighthouse Insights. We had gone to Bangalore where they are based out after retirement. From the day I had landed I was wondering that how I would start the conversation considering my mother is an impatient woman and might lose her sleep after listening to my new adventure.
I finally told them and it wasn’t that difficult. Our blog was no more just a blog and took care of our family in 2013. So I had the confidence and conviction while I shared our story with my parents.
Now reaction time 🙂
My mom went silent and as predicted she became tensed once again with me. She understands what we are doing, the effort but still why do such things at this age. As a mother she wants her kids to have a good and easy life.
My dad wasn’t surprised and it felt like that he was anticipating it. After all he is my Nana (Father). He was interested on what we write, how do we find stories, the number of hours we work and how much are we making. He didn’t doubt on our efforts at all.
Recently our startup celebrated its third birthday. Today my parents know what we do and I don’t have to say any more lies. But my mom still has her set of questions and my dad is worried about our health.
Mom’s latest question:
If you had to start a startup at the end then what was the need to study so much?
I didn’t reply, I gave her a smile as we are confident in what we are doing.
I have never doubted my choice nor am I disturbed by someone’s perception about my startup. I know what I am doing and today I invest my time in taking it to the next level.
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